When to Meet the Parents

BY ALYSSA MCCANN // NOV.12, 2013 //

One night you’re meeting at a party. Before you know it, you’re eating dinner with her family!

With the holiday seasons coming around the corner, many new couples are wondering if they should take their relationship to the next level: meeting the parents.

Meet The Parents 1Yes, it makes me cringe, too. Awkward and nerve-racking, meeting the parents is never easy. But following these steps helped me, and they just might help you as well.

  • Know what you want to do after college (or pretend you do), because you will likely have to field the question
  • Socialize with everyone when you meet the family; try to get to know everyone
  • If your significant other has a brother or a sister, hang out with them. Their opinions of you also matter
  • Be sweet to family members; show them that you actually care. For example, clean up after them or give them a compliment.

There are lots of other tips out there. The biggest question comes before all of that, though. WHEN do you know you’re ready to meet the parents? My opinion is when you and your partner feel comfortable enough with each another, and when you also feel that your relationship is meaningful enough to share it with family members. Not everyone you date falls into that category!

For college-age guys and girls, avoid the family meet and greet if you’re simply in the “talking” stage of a relationship. The “talking” stage was invented by our generation, and it’s the stage in which you’re simply getting to know someone without committing to anything more. I will never understand it.

But my best advice is to wait it out. You can express to your family there is someone you are seeing, but hold off on a formal meeting until you’re truly confident in the health of your relationship.

Dating someone is hard enough. Having your family constantly asking about the person you’re dating is even harder. Make sure you’re ready for that kind of commitment.

We Are Not Children Anymore


Our parents don’t want to admit it. They all think their children are perfect angels who would never do recreational drugs or drink a little too much.

We are adults. We now have the freedom and the ability to do things we were never allowed to do under our parents’ and guardians’ watch. And because we have heard the word “no” for most of our lives, many of us are now taking our newfound liberation pretty far.

Some students take too much advantage of life without parental supervision at college. // STOCKVAULT.NET

Of course, there is truth to having too much of a good thing. College students are notorious for getting carried away with their new freedom. Some abuse it to the point where they are missing classes because they are too hung over or even getting in trouble with school authorities. Missing class means losing a chunk of tuition money, or enduring a heated lecture from your parents for poor grades or worse.

So, be careful with alcohol. Take the time to educate you and your friends about alcohol poisoning. Some warning signs for alcohol poisoning can include slow or irregular breathing, extreme confusion, pale skin, or if one vomits while passed out. It’s a good idea to keep all of this in mind when you’re at a party.

And it’s not just alcohol that first-year students need to be careful of. Drug use is also an issue. OK, weed might be less harmful in comparison to drugs like cocaine, heroin or acid (do people even do acid anymore?). But it’s hardly an innocent drug.

Take the time to learn about the affects of drugs. According to the link, not everyone who smokes weed experiences the same type of “high.” It can differ because of “…potency, dose, chemical composition, method of consumption and set and setting.”

As a little incentive, a new policy has been added to Curry’s financial aid system: If you are caught doing drugs on campus, you will lose your financial aid. So, keep that in mind if you ever decide to smoke pot on campus.

Being careful and responsible is the bottom line. Use your new freedom wisely. Because if you don’t, you might find yourself out of school and back living at home with your parents.